How is the baby's personality determined? How do I treat Mama Daddy?

Children who cry at night, children who do not do well, children who are always in a good mood and do not work ... The baby is also unique. Is it due to personality, and when and how is the personality determined? Let's dig into the baby's personality.

When will your baby's personality determine?

From the conclusion, it is said that the personality of a person is determined by about three years old. There is a saying, "Up to the soul of triplets", but that's right.

In the baby, most of the time to sleep, the types of activities are small and the width is narrow, so there is not much opportunity to show differences in personality. Nevertheless, you may feel the difference in individuality, such as being quiet and calm, or tend to cause tantrums.
It comes from the "temperament" that each individual has.

What is different between personality and temperament?

The temperament is the nature you have in your life. It represents the behavioral characteristics of what kind of reaction is made when stimulated. It is the basis of personality.

So what is personality?
In the words of a researcher in a certain psychology, it is a "characteristic set of behavior, cognitive, and emotional patterns evolving from biological and environmental factors".
In other words, the characteristic of how to act (react to stimuli), understand and judge things, and what kind of emotions to express is "personality", which is affected by heredity and environment. It changes.

How is your personality determined?

The character is determined by biological factors such as inheritance and environmental factors, as described earlier. It may be said that it will be formed. Based on the nature of the born, the personality is gradually improved while being influenced by the living environment and the way people around me. Since congenital parts cannot be changed, how to spend and treat around the age of 2 to 3 will hold the key to determine your personality.

It is difficult to judge what kind of personality your child is growing because the personality is invisible. On the other hand, "actions" where personality appears can be objectively captured, so it will be one guide to know the personality. Paradoxically, it may be said that controlling actions will change your personality.

What does control control mean?

In the "behavioral analysis" caused by American psychologist B.F. Skinners, the idea is that "action" is caused by external "stimuli", and the "result" caused by the behavior is the stimulus that causes the next action. Is basic.

By applying that idea and intentionally changing the results, you can increase or reduce specific actions.
As an easy -to -understand example, let's take a look at the dog's "hands".

If the owner says "hand" (stimulation), and after repeating the experience (as a result), the dog will remember your hand.
This method can be applied to people.
For example, if a child shows a better (stimulus) from the school (behavior), and if you thoroughly say "thank you" with a smile, the child will be able to show you every time. Sho. If your husband thanks or praise when you wash dishes, you will often hear stories about doing housework. That is the same theory.
If you do a good result when you do a desirable action, and repeat the unwanted action, if you do not give it, you will increase the desired behavior.

These "rewards" results create the effect of changing behavior, regardless of whether the other person recognizes that he has received a reward. It can be applied to babies who have no concept of reward yet.

How should Mama Daddy be in contact with your baby?

Crying is an important means of communication for babies. Even if you are hungry or your diaper is dirty and uncomfortable, your baby will cry or sloppy.
If you change diapers or breastfeeding, you will be in a good mood for your baby. It is a diagram that the mama dad acts by the stimulus of the baby crying, resulting in removing discomfort. As you repeat these things many times, your baby learns that crying will eliminate discomfort.
On the other hand, Mama Daddy can also get a "reward" in which the baby is in a good mood and makes her legs and feet look cute by changing diapers and breastfeeding. Of course, even if you don't have it, we will take care of you, but it will bring you not only a sense of duty but also the joy and happiness of taking care of you.

Also, if you treat your baby with a gentle smile and voice when you take care of you, it will be a "reward" for the baby, and the smile and voice of Mama dad will make your baby feel good (stimulated). Masu. In such a happy chain, the relationship of trust between mom daddy and babies is built, and the rich emotions of the baby are nurtured. It is considered that it will also affect the formation of personality after that, so it is very important to detect what the baby is looking for and gently treat with a smile.

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