How is a baby's personality determined? How should I treat my mom and dad?
Children who cry at night and those who don't, children who often get used to, children who are always in good spirits and don't even touch them... babies are also very unique. Is this due to personality and when and how does one determine their personality? Let's dig deeper into the baby's personality.
When will a baby's personality be determined?
To put it simply, it is said that a person's personality is generally determined by the age of three. There is a proverb "up to 100 souls of triplets," and that's exactly right.
With most babies, they sleep most of their activities and have a small range of activities, so there are few opportunities for differences in personality to be seen. Even so, you may notice a difference in personality, such as being gentle and gentle, being prone to tantrums and seemingly unsettling.
It comes from the "temperament" that each individual has innately.
What is the difference between personality and temperament?
Temperament refers to the nature you are born with. It represents behavioral characteristics, such as how you respond when you receive a stimulus. It is the basis of personality.
So, what is personality?
In the words of a psychological researcher, it is "a distinctive set of behavioral, cognitive and emotional patterns that evolve from biological and environmental factors."
In other words, personality is a characteristic of how to act (react to stimuli), how to understand and judge things, and when and what kind of emotions you express, which changes depending on your inheritance and environment.
How is your personality determined?
As I explained earlier, personality is determined by biological factors such as genetics and environmental factors. It could be said that it will be formed. Based on your innate temperament, your personality gradually develops, being influenced by your living environment and the way people around you treat you. Since the congenital aspects cannot be changed, the way you spend your time and treat people around the age of 2 to 3 holds the key to determining your personality.
Personalities are invisible, so it is difficult to tell what kind of personality a child is growing up. On the other hand, the "actions" that show your personality can be viewed objectively, making it a guideline for understanding your personality. Paradoxically, it can be said that controlling your behavior changes your personality.
What does control your behavior mean?
Behavioral analysis, created by American psychologist B.F. Skinner, is based on the idea that external "stimuli" causes "actions" and that the "consequences" that result from those actions become stimuli to take the next action.
By applying that idea, you can intentionally change the outcomes, and increase or decrease certain behaviors.
Let's take a simple example of a dog's "hand."
If the owner repeatedly experiences the idea of "hands" (stimulating), then performing the actions (actions) of the hand, and receiving snacks or praise (results), the dog will learn the hand.
This technique can also be applied to people.
For example, if your child shows you a letter from school (action) and if you thoroughly say "thank you" with a smile (results), your child will begin to show you the letter every time. We often hear stories of how when your husband gives a thank you or praises you when he washes dishes, he will do more housework. That's the same logic.
If you repeat the following: When you take a desired action, you will receive good results, and when you take an undesirable action, you will see an increase in the number of desirable actions.
These "reward" outcomes can have the effect of changing your behavior, regardless of whether the other person perceives that they have received a "reward". This means that it can be applied to babies who don't have the concept of reward yet.
How should moms and dads treat babies?
Crying is an important means of communication for babies. Even when you're hungry or your diapers are dirty and uncomfortable, your baby will cry and slurp and tell you.
Changing diapers or breastfeeding will remove any discomfort and make your baby feel happy. This is a diagram of the stimulation of the baby crying and the mother and father take action, resulting in the discomfort being removed. As you repeat this over and over, your baby learns that "crying will relieve discomfort."
On the other hand, moms and dads also get the "reward" of babies in a good mood and laughing or flapping their arms and legs to make them look cute when they change diapers or breastfeed. Of course, we will take care of you even without this, but it will not only bring you a sense of obligation, but also a sense of joy and happiness of caring for you.
Furthermore, when you treat your baby with a gentle smile and voice when you take care of him, this is itself a "reward" for the baby, and the smile and voice of the mother and father will become an inspiration (stimulation) that will make your baby feel happy. This happy chain builds a relationship of trust between mom and dad and baby, and fosters the baby's rich emotional abilities. It is thought that it will affect the development of your personality afterwards, so it is very important to sense what your baby is looking for and treat him kindly with a smile.
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