What is one-person childcare? What are the tips for getting through it?
The term "one-operated child-rearing" has become a completely established term. I'm sure there are many people who know about it or use it, but I'm sure there are many who don't really know what the situation actually refers to or what the problem is. Let's organize the details again, including tips to get through it well.
What is one-person childcare?
The term "one-operated child-rearing" was also nominated for the 2017 Buzzword Awards. The word "one operation" refers to the fact that the sales of a restaurant or convenience store is handled by a single employee, and refers to the fact that one parent or single parent performs housework or childcare alone.
Ministry of Internal Affairs and Communications:Basic Survey on Social Life in 2021 Results on Living Time and Life Behavior' shows a diagram and table showing "Trends in housework-related time for husbands and wives with children under the age of 6 (2001-2021)" and looking at data from 2021, the wife spends about 3 hours doing housework per day, while husbands spend 30 minutes on childcare, and husbands spend about 4 hours on childcare and about 1 hour on childcare. It can be seen that the burden on the wife is overwhelmingly heavy on both housework and childcare.
This data also highlights the reality that mothers are more likely to fall into a single-person operation situation.
What causes me to be alone?
If you are a single mother or a single father, you will have no choice but to work alone unless you are in an environment where you can support your child-rearing on a daily basis, such as having a reliable home nearby.
Even if your partner is busy and doesn't spend much time at home, or you may be tired after you get home or on holidays and can't be relied on, the burden tends to be biased on just one of your parents. If you are on a single business trip, you will be in the same environment as a single family, so you will have no choice but to run the business alone.
Unfortunately, it is also true that there are a certain number of people who believe that "housework and childcare are something that women do." This tendency will be stronger if your wife is a full-time housewife. Even in this case, mothers tend to be in a situation where they can live on housework and childcare on their own on weekdays and on holidays.
What's difficult when you're alone?
When I asked senior moms and dads who have experienced working alone, many people said that the most difficult thing about daily care was the bath.
It is relatively easy for newborns to use a baby bath to bathe, but once you start bathing together, you will need to think about the steps and steps, such as what to do with your baby while you wash your body and hair, and when you wipe your body after the bath.
Also, when you buy ingredients that tend to be heavy with lots of luggage, you have to take your baby with you, and they don't sleep quietly every time you prepare meals, so it's quite difficult to do the work while taking care of them.
Thanks to breastfeeding every few hours and crying at night, I can't get enough sleep, and I have to work and do housework during the day, so I tend to get lack of sleep. There is no time to rest and often times the baby does not go as calculated when it comes to the baby, so not only physically but also mentally exhaustion can occur. Every day with just the baby and you may feel lonely.
If you continue to do so, you may become unwell or suffer from mental illnesses such as depression. It is important to take measures before this happens.
What's the trick to get through it well?
It's important not to try too hard to do everything perfectly.
The password is "Oh, okay." If your family and yourself are healthy and safe, you pass the exam. Even if it's a little different from your ideal, just think about it casually. One option is to use home appliances and housework services that reduce the burden on housework.
Some moms may try hard by whipping their tired bodies to complete the remaining housework while their children are sleeping. But it's not to overdo it. Except for the things you absolutely have to do now, let's put it off and sleep with your kids. You can expect to feel refreshed and regain your physical strength and motivation.
If you're feeling tired or worried, talk to someone. If you can talk slowly with your partner, you may be able to gain more cooperation. If this is a difficult environment, it is a good idea to talk to your parents, siblings, or mom friends. It may feel better if you join a childcare club and have friends who can share the same worries. We recommend that you actively utilize external support, such as family support from local governments, as needed. Don't just take it on your own, but continue to ask and rely on those around you for help.
What your partner can do
Raising a child is both physically and mentally a pain. It's not something you can do on your own. Even if you're a full-time housewife.
Please recognize that working with partners is essential.
In recent years, there has been an increasing number of cases where men take childcare leave, and some companies and organizations are actively seeking to take it. We recommend that fathers first take advantage of parental leave and try to take up childcare.
After child care leave, it may become difficult to share fair housework and childcare. If you are unable to take part in childcare due to work and are unable to take part in the process of taking on housework at night or before work, it is important to make efforts to avoid leaving it to the other person. It's a good idea to discuss what you can and want them to do with your mom and dad, and decide on a role.
Although there are difficult aspects, raising a child, where you welcome a baby and weaving together precious memories is inherently a happy thing. Both moms and dads should try to resist physical and mental damage by relieving moderate strength, supporting each other and overcoming each other.
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