When will my baby be shy? Can it be cured? How to deal with mom and dad
A shy person who shows negative reactions to people he doesn't know. It's difficult for both the baby himself and the adults around him, but it's a path that everyone goes through during the growth process. So that you don't panic when that time comes, know when it starts, when it subsides, and why it happens.
What does it mean to be shy?
The dictionary definition is: "When a child sees someone they don't know and feels embarrassed or dislikes it."
Generally speaking, it refers to a situation where a baby cries when a new person or stranger approaches and talks to or holds the baby. It is a phenomenon that occurs during the growth process, starts naturally and gradually subsides.
Even if they don't cry, if they stiffen up or look away, they may be shy. If you notice that your child is acting different than usual, take care of him.
When does shyness start?
Although there are individual differences, one guideline is around 6 months of age. Of course, some children are slower, and others show no obvious signs of shyness. The timing and severity of onset vary from baby to baby, so don't worry too much if your child is different from other babies.
Around the same time, changes such as the child starting to make noises and staring at things and pointing will also occur. This is the time when children develop curiosity and become interested in various things, and begin to use their hands well, so you may see them touching or grasping things that interest them, or hitting something in their hands against something else. These are all stages of growth.
Why is my baby shy?
The biggest reason is that your baby's eyesight will develop and they will be able to recognize the faces of people around them. Children develop a deep attachment relationship with adults who are always close to them and give them love, such as moms and dads, and they become happy when their beloved mom and dad comfort them, but on the other hand, they begin to feel anxious and fearful towards strangers and end up crying. When mom and dad leave their side, they are more likely to cry and "chat".
It seems that many babies feel ``curious but scared'' out of curiosity and fear, and there are many babies who cling to mom or dad while glancing at other people.
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They may suddenly show a shy and negative reaction not only to unknown people, but also to people with whom they had previously been in a good mood. It's easy to be shocked that your partner doesn't like you, but don't worry, it's common and you can quickly get back on track.
Dads who don't have much time to spend with their baby due to work commitments may end up being labeled as a "stranger" and may end up crying. When you are at home, such as on holidays, spend as much time as possible interacting with your baby so that he or she can remember your face.
How long does shyness last?
It often subsides between the ages of 1 and 2 years, but in some children it ends earlier, and in some children it continues beyond the age of 3. There is a big difference between individuals, so there is no need to worry about whether it is early or late.
However, the longer the child becomes attached to the mother due to shyness or is unable to interact well with other adults or friends of the same age, the greater the burden will be on the mother. If you are in trouble, it may be a good idea to use a consultation center such as your local government's Childcare Support Center. Don't worry about it alone; rely on those around you.
How to deal with shyness?
If your child bursts into tears as soon as an adult other than mom and dad picks them up, it can create an awkward atmosphere and make you feel apologetic. It's tempting for mom and dad to panic and take over the baby's arms again, but we recommend keeping a smile on your face for a while to avoid increasing the baby's anxiety. If the baby sees mom and dad's smiling faces and understands that the person holding him is not scary, he may stop crying.
If you explain to the adults around you, such as the person holding you, that this is a period of shyness, they will understand. Let's watch together.
Can shyness be cured?
If you don't have the chance to meet people outside of your family, you'll end up crying every time you meet someone because there are so many people outside your home that you don't know. To prevent this from happening, it may be a good idea to gradually gain experience in meeting people on a daily basis until around 6 months old.
Once your child starts to show shyness, it is no good to suddenly introduce him to a variety of people in order to get him used to people. Don't force yourself to do this, as it can be a heavy burden and traumatizing for the baby. Shyness is a very common reaction that occurs while growing up. It will subside eventually, so keep an eye on your baby and make sure that you are relaxing and not putting too much stress on your baby.
Do you sometimes feel shy?
Many babies are shy, but some aren't shy at all.
Therefore, just because a child is not shy, it cannot be said that there is a delay in growth or a disability. However, if your dog continues to be unresponsive to calls, unable to look at you, or show no interest in people or things around you after 6 to 9 months of age, there may be a problem with his eyesight or hearing. Since autism or a developmental disorder may be suspected, it may be a good idea to consult a specialist.
Summary
Some moms and dads may feel anxious or hurt by their baby's shyness, but once they know the reason, they can watch over their baby more comfortably, thinking it's part of their growing up process. Don't get discouraged even if your child cries or hates you, and cherish the daily physical contact.
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